True Story: Me and my boys Whitey and V Mac were promoting for a party a while ago. So after the club let out we had a few flyers on us that we needed to get out. As Whitey and V Mac were out there hustling flyers they were at a crosswalk and some random chick approaches, so they give her the whole spill about the party and whatnot. Apparently the girl decides she doesn’t want to wait at the crosswalk anymore and walks out just as a car is passing by. Being the gentlemen that they are, V Mac and Whitey stop her from getting hit by the car. The girl then turns to them and instead of thanking them for saving her life, she says, “See this why I ain’t coming to yall party. Yall aint even HOOD enough!” I can’t make this shit up.
So this isn’t a new phenomenon or anything like that, but a recent news story about a young lady who was killed by her boyfriend that had a reputation of a thuggish nature prompted me to put my thoughts down about this subject. Apparently her family warned her about the dude, but she was persistent in standing by her man until the very end….literally. I personally never understood why, but women seem to like “thugs.” There’s a reason I put the word in quotes; because no woman really wants a real thug. They just want someone who dresses the part. If you ask a woman why she likes the thug type of a man, she’ll probably give you some bull shit answer about how she needs a real man that can handle a woman like her. See, they like the thug persona, but still expect the young man to open doors, be a gentleman, be able to hold intelligent conversations, and dress like an adult when he wants to (no, dressing like an adult does not include an eight-button Stacy Adams suit). You would probably expect an answer like this from a woman in high school or college, but unfortunately these are grown ass women coming up with these answers. True, perhaps while a young man is immature and portrays a "thuggish" appearance in high school or maybe even while an undergraduate in college, but is actually en route to becoming a productive adult, once the 25-30 year age limit has been reached, "thuggish" ways have pretty much set in. Upon deeper thinking and research, I think I’ve found the real reason why. Walk with me, people
The first reason I believe is because, as I’ve stated before, some women just love drama. They need it to breathe. For some, a man who works at Dell or State Farm just isn’t interesting enough. They need someone who is out there working on his music and is in the “trap.” This way when he makes it big, she can quit her job and spend all day shopping, and all night in the club popping bottles. Either way, the dude with the 9-5 is a little too square for her, and she’d probably become bored with him quickly. Apparently stability = boredom
The other reason goes a little deeper though. I truly believe some women have a false idea of what masculinity is; as if a dude that is hot tempered and overly aggressive proves his manhood because he won’t concede to anything. Because a real man don’t take no shit from nobody and goes out and handles his. Riiight...
Sadly these are the women who will have gotten played, heartbroken, burned, etc by these so called thugs, and they will be alone and miserable. They’ll get tired of the dude with no stability and will be looking to upgrade to one of the straight forward guys out there with a 401k. Eventually they will end up on an ABC special about why successful black women can’t find a successful black man. So to all my good guys out there, don’t sweat it. They say nice guys finish last, but at least they don't finish in prison or a coffin. If you’re trying to get at a chick and she claims to want a “thug” or that you're not hood enough, just let her go. Stop trying to save em…let them hoes get run over.
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